Meet Jane Roets, LMFT

Hi! I’m Jane (she/her).

I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) who has had a long and winding professional pathway that always brings me back to all things having to do with pregnancy, birth, parenting, life transitions and families. Specializing in Perinatal Mental Health (PMH) is a new and exciting step on my journey as a mental health provider.

My journey~

I began my work as an MFT 30 years ago at the same time I became a mother for the first time. I graduated from UCONN and less than a month later had my first child. Over the next 6 years and 2 more children, I juggled parenting and working and never felt like I was doing any of it right! I was passionate about all things related to pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and parenting while at the same time needing to earn a paycheck and feel like I was a “successful” woman who had it all. I was lucky (and privileged) enough to have a life partner who supported me when I made the difficult decision to leave my career behind for a while. I threw myself into the world of being a SAHM which then led to a 20-year career running a small business “Arts from the Heart, llc” focused on music and movement for families with children birth – 6. This filled my “parenting work” cup, but when Covid shut down the world, and my own children were launched I needed to dig back into the mental health world.

I believe strongly that we are all doing the best we can with what we’ve been given. I also believe it is our responsibility to learn and grow every day. When I returned to the field in 2020, I began to build my expertise around Infant and Early Childhood Mental Health, training in Child Parent Psychotherapy (CPP) to work with children 0-6 who have experienced trauma. I’m currently pursuing endorsement as an Infant Mental Health Specialist in the state of Connecticut. The Dyadic relationship that begins to form from the moment a birthing person discovers they are pregnant is so powerful and transformative, I am committed to walking with families through this pivotal chapter. A strong, early attachment is protective to both parent and child and so much of our current way of supporting birthing families works again this – lack of and/or brevity of parental leave, limited birth choices, birth trauma, medicalization of birth, lack of support for feeding choices, inadequate childcare options, isolation from extended families and communities- I am deeply committed to supporting birthing people and their families in accessing the care and support they need both as an individual and as a parent or couple.

At the end of the day, I see my work as a therapist to be one of “holding.” I “hold” the caregivers and support them so they can “hold” their loved ones and support them.

On a personal note ~

I love spending time with my partner in life and watching my 3 adult children build their own “nests.” I am a Gigi to adorable twin grandchildren and because I wouldn’t want to be bored, I serve on my local Town Council

Jane offers care via telehealth and in person in our Tolland home office.  Fill out our New Client Inquiry form to get started today.